My boyfriend hates the word perception. I think he equates the word with passing
judgment but it is so much more than passing judgment. The word perception is very tricky because
everyone’s perception is different. Everyone has their own way of seeing things
and processing information and interactions. Perception comes from actual knowledge and interaction,
when passing judgment comes from not having a true understanding, but
automatically choosing to hate or dislike.
Often times how we perceive someone isn’t really who they
truly are. I know for me there’s “Work
Martine” and then there’s “Home Martine”, who is completely opposite. I try to keep as professional as possible at
work because I’m not particularly interested in making friends with my
co-workers. I’ve worked in Corporate
America for a very long time in various companies and I know the game. Especially
being one of very few black women at the company, I have to remain
professional; so I keep my nose clean, work hard and be as generically cordial
and friendly as possible.
In the past, I was told a lot in high school and college that
I came off as being stuck up. This always bothered me, so whenever I would be
in a group of people I would stay quiet because I thought “If people are going
to always think I’m stuck up, then I might as well not say anything”, so my
walls went up. Meanwhile, I knew that I
wasn’t being stuck up, I am just the type of person that has to warm up to
people before I feel comfortable. And
I’m still like that till this day. Except now, I’m a lot more comfortable with
myself and I could care less how people perceive me anymore, I know who I
am.
Do you ever think about how others perceive you? Does it depend on who it is…strangers vs.
family/friends?
At the end of the day, do you even really care?
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